Not all experiences in life are pleasant, but they can all be beneficial. What we need is a fresh vision of ourselves. Instead of getting down on ourselves for our shortcomings. Let us take inventory of them. Invite God to show us our assets alongside our liabilities. We must have a healthy balance view of ourselves. We need to take a kind and tolerant view of ourselves if we are to be the living examples of God's love and compassion. We must be the recipients of what we seek to give, if it is to be selfless and genuine. Cut yourself a break and take it easy. That way you will be ready and open to be a channel of grace, mercy and love. When God is the source of these things, there is a never ending supply for ourselves, and plenty left to give to others. In fact, the more we give them to others, the more we experience them ourselves.